Archive for August, 2009

Life is a process of events and moments that help mold and shape you into what God’s desire is.  That sounds great but moments can be hard.  Moments in life are often painful and full of questions.  However, think about this, what if every moment in my life, and yours,  were driving us to a destination?  It doesn’t matter if the moments are good or bad, they are the fuel to push us to a greater destination.  Moments help fine-tune us.

Moments may drive us to a destination but the road is paved with attitude.  Moments have the potential to launch us into the next phase or sink us into despair. Like standing at a crossroad with one sign pointing to the left and one to the right, I must decide my attitude. That attitude will shape and formulate my destination.

Embrace the moments of life and let them drive you to your destination, as long as you have the right attitude. It is not easy at times (I sometimes relapse with a bad attitude) but stay focused and stay on track.

Imagine if our churches were filled with embraced moments with good attitudes?  Imagine if the work place were filled with embraced moments with good attitudes?


happy-face-istock-456In 1992 David Myers wrote the book, “The Pursuit of Happiness:  Who is Happy and Why?”.   His research was focused on what the key elements were that provided happiness.  It wasn’t long before the research displayed a very clear element that rose above the rest.  It wasn’t wealth, fame, good-looks, or achievement awards.  The one element that stood out as a clear proponent of happiness was Relationships, close ones!

We are created to be in relationships.  We are not created to be lone-rangers.  It is close relationships that contribute to the happiness of man kind.  Isolation deteriorates happiness.  Isolation tears down walls of purpose.  It is in isolation where the voice of the enemy becomes very loud and we find it difficult to hear other voices.  The enemy tells us we are worthless and our belief system is damaged.  Life becomes hard and we sink into a depression that feels impossible to climb out.

The good news is that our creator created us to experience close relationships.  It is the close relationships that help heal the hurts of the soul.  Face to face laughter, crying and sharing life experiences are vital to the pursuit of happiness.  We all need close friends.  2 Corinthians 5 tells us that ‘God has settled the relationship between us and Him and then called us to settle our relationships with each other.”  Relationships begin by taking a sincere interest in someone other than yourself, including God.

Close relationships don’t require money, fame or class prerequisites.  You don’t need a PhD or own the latest gadgets.  All you need is close friends and you will be on your way to happiness.

How is your relationship with God?  Isolated? Close?   How about with others?  Pursue happiness today.  Pursue a relationship with God and with others.

number-1-sign-756266I have discovered Facebook to be a great place to get feedback.  I ask a question on my status and I get lots of great responses.  A few weeks ago, I posted, “What does Failure look like?”, and I received some amazing thoughts.  So this week I posted this question, “What is the # 1 leadership lesson you have learned?”  I figure if I could provide a list of # 1’s, it would be a valuable list.  So, here they are and not in any order:

  1. “I agree with General Robert E Lee when he said, “I cannot trust a man to control others who cannot control himself.” submitted by Kevin King
  2. “You cannot give what you do not have.”  submitted by Shane Wilson
  3. “Spend 80% of your anointing/calling ministering to God.  This is the key to not getting burned out, and staying effective.-Graham Cooke”  submitted by Angela Barnard
  4. “Be willing to make mistakes: admit them, correct them as much as possible, and move on.” submitted by Jenny Archer
  5. “Always look at the best results that can happen and at the worst that can happen and make changes to keep the worst from happening.”  submitted by Lisa Garrett
  6. “Don’t be afraid to take into consideration the experience of your other team members when decisions about projects are being made.  If someone can can save you the pain of a mistake because of what they have already learned, that is a great gift.”  submitted by Carol Porterfield
  7. “Keep your mouth shut, even if they have it coming”  submitted by Sabrina Roberts
  8. “Servant leadership.  Christ was the great example.  Don’t ask others to do what you are not willing to do yourself.”  submitted by Jennifer Swift
  9. “Being a leader is hard and pretty much impossible without the Lord behind you.”  submitted by Jim Smith
  10. “Communication is HUGE.”  submitted by Cyndi Stahl
  11. “Don’t be to proud to do the lowest job.  Remember, Jesus washed the feet of his disciples, stay HUMBLE.  Pride comes before a great fall.”  submitted by Dana Covert
  12. “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”  submitted by Randy Cartwright.

Thank you to everyone that took the time to respond.

What is your #1 leadership lesson you have learned? I would love to hear them.

failureA few weeks back I asked this question on my facebook, “What does failure look like?”  Within seconds I started receiving a number of responses.  Here are a few of my thoughts on what failure looks like based on the responses I received.

  1. Failure is objective.  Eric Thomure added this, “depends on what success looks like”.  How true.  We have no idea if we are successful if we have no benchmark of success.
  2. Failure is strongly connected to emotion.  It is amazing how many can feel like a failure on Monday and feel like a success on Tuesday, and nothing has changed between the two days.  Emotions change, and as they change, the feeling of being a failure can move up or down in direct proportion of our emotions.
  3. You can fail.  Wow! If you are given a simple task that you are capable of performing, you can fail (look at #1).  However, failing at a simple task does no make us a failure!
  4. Blending the lines of failure is VERY DANGEROUS.    It is possible to fail at simple tasks.  However, failing at a task does not make me a failure as a dad, husband or even a man.  Another way to say this,  “perspective is everything.”  Loosing a job or missing that golden opportunity is very painful, but don’t blend the lines of who you are as a creation of God with difficult situations.  If you do, it can be devastating to you and to those around you.
  5. Failures increase your wisdom.  The Bible connects gray hair with wisdom.  Gray haired individuals have been around a while, they have incredible perspective.  They have gained wisdom through their failures and success’.  I am sure if asked they would tell you their failures in life helped shape who they are and they really were not failures.
  6. Failure shows  you were willing to try.  There are only 2 people that walked on water.  Jesus and Peter.  Peter gets ridiculed a lot, for getting his eyes off of Jesus and sinking.  However, he was the only one to get out of the boat and try!  Everyone else stayed in the safe dry boat.

I leave you with a response from a friend who went through a very dark time.  Listen to this response…  “you’ve been taught that “all things are possible through Christ” but yet you’ve encountered an impossible situation.  You feel like all is lost.  We must remember tho that when Christ died on the cross – it looked like failure…however, it was really the beginning of everything God wanted to do for mankind.  I think we have to be careful not to judge “our” failure and look instead for what God is doing in us.  Hope is extremely powerful!!!!  It snuffs out failure every time.”